Is it Even Possible to Find Bliss in Homework?

Just last week a friend came to me with an interesting question: “How can is it possible to tell if your child is following their bliss? What is it that I will observe my child doing as well as BEing while she is following her bliss?”

Thanks to Steve for asking a great question! Realizing that other parents out there may have the same questions, I decided to blog about it.

Observing my daughter or any child living their bliss is actually a relatively simple thing to do. For example, I know when my daughter is in her bliss or in alignment by:

• The tone of her voice
• The way she is carrying herself – her body language and posture
• An easy and relaxed expression on her face is a key indication of her bliss – she appears to be glowing – just radiating happiness.

Other indicators are when she sings and dances – her creative sense of self is predominant. Lots of artwork, song writing, and improvisational skits are bestowed upon me. When she is doing homework and is in her bliss or alignment, the homework is done lickety split and with accuracy! She trusts and knows that she has the answers to any homework questions or assignment.

When she is in her bliss, people are drawn to her. Teachers ask her to do the coveted duties for the classroom and schoolmates want to be around her. The telephone rings off the hook with invitations to various events.

Most parents can easily identify when their children are in a blissful state. The tricky thing for parents to do is to allow their children to continue to live in their bliss.

Many times, a well-meaning parent can pull a child away from being in a state of bliss or state of alignment. Most times this occurs when a parent is wanting their child or children to “do” something that the parent has placed more importance on than the child’s own scale of importance.

Take homework, as an example.

Homework is part of the school system. Even if you are homeschooling your child, certain curriculum standards have to be met. So how do you as a parent make sure the homework gets finished and allow your child to stay connected to their bliss?

There are several ways to go about this – but the first thing you might want to take a look at is the story you are telling yourself about the homework. Really take a moment and look at the “What will happen if the homework doesn’t get done?” story that you are telling yourself:

• Are you projecting what happened in your own school experience onto your child?
• What were the repercussions you experienced as a child if your homework didn’t get done?
• Are those the same repercussions your child will experience? Are you sure?
• Was your homework experience fun and joyful? Did you enjoy doing your homework?
• Did you have support from family members during homework time, or was it a battle of the wills – yelling matches?

Now that you have surfaced all of that up, you have a pretty good idea of what it is that you do NOT want.

Now it time to shift the focus to what it is that you DO want to experience in connection with your child’s homework. You might want more ease, more fun, to support your child from a positive platform; to encourage rather than discourage.

At this point, begin writing down what it is that YOU want to experience as it pertains to assisting your child with homework. Really amp up what it is that you want to feel.

Focus on the feelings you want to feel – focus on the feelings that you are beginning to feel – and you will experience a shift. Even the slightest shift can bring a sense of relief!

Pay attention to your body as you go through this process. You might feel an easing of your breath or breathing – maybe a loosening of your muscles. However slight it may be, the important thing is to tune into yourself and recognize it.

At this point, because you have made a shift, you can begin to have access to inspired action.

Ask yourself: “What are some steps I can take to have a more joy-filled homework experience with my daughter/son?” You can start by asking “what if” questions (just remember – you are in a positive place now, so the questions will be of a positive nature).

• What if we played school and I was the student?
• What if we made flash cards and every correct answer earned points toward a favorite meal?
• What if we used sheets and blankets to make a tent and did the homework inside it?
• What if…?

The possibilities are truly endless! Choose the “what if” that feels best for you and follow through with it. You will be pleasantly surprised at how much fun homework can be!

Remember, you have already been through school. Your experience does not have to be your child’s experience. When you effectively manage your own energy, you are being a positive up-lifter and positive role model for your child.

The exciting thing is, you can apply this type of energy management and shifting to all areas of parenting – not just homework! If you’d like to find out more about the blissful transformation of the chaotic family, join me on Thursday, October 27th at 9:00PM EST for a complimentary tele-training: The Magnetism of the Awakening Parent. Visit here now to find out more.