One for One

How many pairs of shoes do you have in your closet?

If you’re anything like me, you’ll probably have a pair to go with your favorite jeans or dress, along with a range of comfy shoes, sexy shoes, working shoes, walking shoes…you name it.  I’d bet you have several pairs that you can choose from to fit your mood.

What about your kids? Do they have shoes for every occasion?

Soccer cleats, football cleats, dance shoes, tennis shoes, sandals, winter boots, slippers…the list goes on and on – but all of them are essential!

What if you could not provide shoes for your children?  Would they be able to go to school?

I was recently made aware of an amazing company called Toms Shoes.  You may have heard of them or seen their ads on TV, but the TV ads don’t really do justice to the impact that going without shoes has on kids around the world, and how Blake Mycoskie is out to change the lives of children, one pair of shoes at a time.

Toms Shoes was founded by Blake Mycoskie in 2006.  His idea for Toms Shoes came about when he was in Argentina learning how to play polo, which he himself has been quoted as calling, ”The least noble cause in the world for me to go to Argentina, which goes to show you never know what is going to happen in your life.’

While on that trip, Blake observed the polo players slipping out of their boots into shoes called Alpargatas.  The Alpargata are traditional Argentine shoes that have been worn by the Argentines for hundreds of years.  That shoe was the basis for the Toms Shoe design.

Blake had zero experience in fashion or shoes, to which he says, “I think sometimes when you don’t have experience, you don’t know the rules; you don’t know which ones you are breaking and you end up creating true innovation.”

The name Toms Shoes actually started out as Tomorrows Shoes.  It was shortened because Tomorrows Shoes was too long for the logo tags found on the side of the shoes.

The best part is – Blake was determined to donate a new pair of shoes for every pair purchased.  One for One.  How amazing is that! Read more

How do you know when to say yes...or no?

Well, it’s official – I’ve entered into more than one retail store over the past few days to find it transformed into a Christmas wonderland, complete with music, new staff uniforms, and a spirit of joy that doesn’t seem to come at any other time of the year.

But wait a minute…

Didn’t we JUST have Halloween?

I suppose it’s inevitable that the stores are always going to seem to start Christmas earlier every year – particularly this year when they’re so eager to get a jump over the somewhat dismal performance of recent economic downturn.

As much as I enjoy the early holiday spirit, I notice that it always seems to call for an increase of targeted advertising – particularly relating to children. One of the areas I’ve seen this most is among the mobile phone companies, who seem to be targeting younger and younger audiences all the time.

While these ad campaigns used to have a clear target of mostly teens and twenty-something’s, they’ve now shifted over to the ‘tween’ sector. The actors in the ads are younger – there’s even one ad that has a tween asking her dad if he signed her up for a calling plan yet. In another, the entire family is in the car with both kids in the backseat – the younger one is texting while the teen is arguing with her mom about expired minutes!

Last year, my daughter began to ask for her own mobile phone.  Her asking became begging, and her begging became desperate acts of pleading and yearning. But throughout all this desperate pleading, she could not actually tell me why she wanted a mobile phone – other than repeating, “Everyone has one – and they are cool!”

The truth was, there wasn’t really a need for her to have a cell phone. She is on a closed campus during the day for school, and has access to the office telephone should she need to contact me. When not at school, she’s with me. Despite her arguments of, “Other people in my class have one mom – it’s just not fair!” she did not get a mobile telephone. I did not feel in alignment with giving her a mobile phone, so she did not get one.

Even more importantly than my alignment with her having one, it was very clear to me that she was really not in alignment with having one. She could not give me any real reason that she wanted one, other than everyone else has one, and they are cool

It can be such a difficult struggle when your child asks you for things like this. It can feel like you’re asking your child to earn his or her wellbeing. It can feel like ‘spare the rod and spoil the child’.

But it doesn’t have to feel like any of that. Read more

Sit back, relax, and listen in!

As the holiday season FAST approaches, it seems like there’s just no time left in the day to get everything accomplished. I’ll tell you a secret – while some people like to shake their heads at things like microwave steamer bags for vegetables, crock pot liners (to save on washing!) and coffee pot timers – I’ve gotta tell you, I love ‘em! As a parent, pretty much anything that can save me time is a GOOD thing.

In the spirit of saving you time, I’ve recored two audio versions of what it means to apply spiritual parenting skills and energy management practices to your experience – allowing for the beginning of what I love to call Blissful Transformation among the family life that for so many just seems to boil down to chaos!

If you’re getting tired of the chaos and looking to begin transformation, take this opportunity to listen to one (or both) of these recordings – created especially for busy parents like YOU!

It was an honor to join the Queen of Joy, Velma Gallant, on her Welcome Changes Radio show, where past interviewees include people like bestselling authors Guy Finley, Christine Kloser, and Masha Malka, as well as amazing experts like Kathleen Gage and Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein. :

Velma’s easygoing and welcoming helps make an instant connection between host, guest and audience, where you’ll be sure to feel drawn right into the conversation – just like sitting down with a good friend! It was truly a pleasure to join Velma on her show – when you listen in, you’ll hear a lot of tips I haven’t shared anywhere else!

This next audio is a recording I created especially for my community – a one-hour tele-training called “The Magnetism of the Awakening Parent“. You’ll find a wealth of useful information here – and best of all, the tips and tools you get in this call are fast, easy, and ready for you to apply right away for almost immediate results!

Listen in to the recording by visiting here now: The Magnetism of the Awakening Parent

If you have any comments or questions on what you are hearing, please feel free to get in touch with me  at Cyndi@blissfullytransformchaoticfamily.com. I look forward to connecting with you again soon!

What's Your Wish?

For the past nine years, I have been a mother, business woman and executive at a Fortune 100 Company. As a Coach and Energy Worker who is at the forefront of spiritual training, it is my passion and my purpose to discover and introduce programs that will enrich and bless your parenting life.

Today, I want to ask you a few questions and then tell you a personal story…

• Have you ever wished parenting could be easier?
• Have you ever thought, “There has got to be a better way!”?
• Have you ever wished LIFE could be easier?
• Have you ever wondered – as I did – why some people always seemed to have that golden touch – always being in the right place at the right time – something it seemed would never happen to you?

Nine years ago, I felt the same way.  My marriage was ending, my father had just been diagnosed with a rare form of cancer, I had a newborn, and I was making a career move! Against all odds and conventional wisdom, I doubled my income in less than one year.  In less than 2 years, I was elevated to an executive position at a Fortune 100 company.

People were surprised at what I accomplished; they even congratulated me.

But I didn’t have the energy to congratulate myself. I was just exhausted – and I couldn’t imagine how in the world I would manage another year of the same. It was just not possible. All I wished for was an end to what seemed like constant chaos.

In hindsight, I know I did lots of things the hard way. I worked late nights and weekends – and I felt guilty ALL the time. When I was with my family I felt guilty for not working and – yep, you guessed it – when I was working I felt guilty for not being with my family!

On more than one occasion, I was ready to give up. I knew I couldn’t continue much longer at the same frenzied and chaotic pace. Then, it dawned on me! Read more

What standard are your kids measuring themselves up to?

One of my favorite times of the day is when I get to go and pick my daughter up from school. It is during the drive home that she and I get to catch up on the day’s activities. Our conversations at these times are totally open and honest.

One of the most recent conversations started out with the typical, “Mom, can I ask you something?” To which I always reply, “Of course honey, you can ask me anything.”

I have to admit, what came out of my daughter’s mouth was unexpected. “Mom, what are carbohydrates?”

“Okay,” I thought, “What is prompting this question? Maybe the kids had a discussion about carbohydrates in physical education? That must be it,” I thought to myself. “What is making you ask about carbohydrates, honey?”

Was I shocked to hear what came out of my ten-year-old daughter’s mouth as she continued, “Well, Janie* is only allowed 15 carbohydrates a day, and she says carbohydrates make you fat.”

“Wow!” I thought, “Oh my goodness – these are only 10 and 11 year old girls!” None of which (I can assure you) have any weight issues. So how did I handle the question about carbohydrates? Simple. I explained that carbohydrates are energy, just like all food. It takes energy for your body to function, for your brain to think, and for you to be able to do physical activities.

My daughter seemed to be satisfied with my answer and we continued on to different topics of discussion. The very next day, my daughter announced that Janie has taken up label reading and had begun offering nutritional advice to her classmates. Seems like Janie has become a self appointed dietitian, telling the kids what is good or bad for them to consume. My daughter also announced that she (my daughter) thinks her (my daughter’s) legs are chunky.

What? Read more

How do you cope with these kinds of situations?

Do you find yourself striving to have a more patient, gentle approach to your parenting?

When I first began on my journey to applying universal principles to family life, I found this to be one of the major hurdles that I HAD to get over. Yes – there was a lot of stress in my life. Single mother, full time corporate exec, dealing with family health issues – you name it. But I didn’t want all of those things continually coming together to create a short fuse that was ready to blow just when it could affect my daughter the most.

Let’s face it – as a parent, it can often be difficult to keep your cool – but it can be done. There are many ways to relieve stress and improve your overall parenting experience. Here are 8 parenting tips you can act on right now to start finding more bliss within the chaos during your parenting journey.

1. Admit That You Aren’t Perfect. Only a superhuman could juggle every aspect of their adult lives in perfection. It’s just not realistic to feel that you should be the one exception – and incredibly freeing to admit that you don’t have to. When you do find yourself making a “mistake” acknowledge it – not only to yourself, but also to your children.
2. Allow Yourself Some Time Off. Whether it’s an uninterrupted bath or simply allowing time for daily meditation, you are permitted and entitled to some personal time once in a while. In fact, your mental well-being depends on it!
3. Engage the kids in “Family Meetings”. Children as young as 2 or 3 have opinions – and they can and should be taken into consideration. You can engage your children during family meeting time. Make them a part of the decision making process. For example, let the kids decide on a family activity, like choosing the board game or card game on game night. Family meetings foster healthy communication and problem solving between adults and children.
4. Support. Make sure you have a support network. Support networks that offer unbiased suggestions and support are invaluable! Engage a mentor or other parenting expert for unbiased support. You’ll be glad that you did.
5. Stay Rested. Sometimes eight hours of sleep every night isn’t realistic for parents of young children. So you need to be able to catch a cat nap or a few moments of quiet time whenever you can. Even if you sit quietly for just a few moments in your car before you transition from the office to the drive home, you’ll be recharging your batteries. If you can, take a 10 or 15 minute power nap during your lunch time. Sleep whenever you get the chance. Sleep deprivation can tremendously shorten your fuse.
6. Eat Well. Proper nutrition helps keep you focused and it helps your immune system function at optimal levels. Don’t skip meals when you’re running behind or because you get distracted. If your immune system gets run down, you are more susceptible to getting sick. When you get sick, you’ll still be responsible for being a parent. You wouldn’t send your child off to school or to bed without eating, and the same goes for you – you need to eat balanced meals.
7. Exercise. You don’t need to join a gym to reap the benefits of exercise. Putting some music on and dancing with your children is a great way to exercise and engage your children at the same time. Many parents think they don’t have time to join a local gym, and many times parents are in situations where a sitter is not available. The truth is, most gyms offer child care so you can take your child along with you. Get some regular exercise to keep your energy level up. Regular exercise helps alleviate stress in a big way.
8. Learn To Laugh. Laugh at yourself! If you can think of the absurdity of things like they are a grand comedy and laugh at the craziness of it all, you’ll be in a much better mood. Life is supposed to be fun! So what if your toddler is having the melt down of all melt downs! Remember that young children are learning how to express themselves and leave it at that.

Once when I was shopping during the holidays I noticed a young mother and her young son moving pretty quickly through the store. It was obvious that her son had been asking her repeatedly for a toy. The boy was standing in the area of the cart where you place your items. He was a really cute kid. After hearing his mom say over and over again to him that he was going to have to wait for the toy he’d been bugging her to buy him, he raised his arms to the sky and in a very melodramatic voice said, “For the love of humanity, won’t someone help me out here?!”

Well, that just cracked me up! I looked at his mom and at first glance she seemed completely unfazed by his performance. She had a small, almost unnoticeable little grin on her face. Smiling silently to herself, she was laughing on the inside I am sure.

When life comes at you too fast, step away and take a break. Do yourself and your kids a huge favor get to the place of knowing that everything really is going to be okay – that this too shall pass. After all, what’s the worst that can come of spilled milk? It is not the end of the world. It is just a minor hiccup in the day of a parent.

Seeing you as having the parenting experience you dream of.

~Peace

Cyndi Cerny
Founder Blissful Transformation of the Chaotic Family
www.BlissfullyTransformChaoticFamily.com
Cyndi@BlissfullyTransformChaoticFamily.com

Molly Kite Has Faith

As a spiritual parenting coach, it’s always exciting to me to join with others who are so on board with the idea that kids can be brought up in full understanding of universal principles like the Laws of Attraction, freeing them in so many ways to grow up in the knowing of the birthright that each and every one of us were born with.

That’s why I am thrilled to share this with you today – my colleague, Tam Veilleaux, has written a children’s book I know you’ll love! She’s experienced the same vision that Law of Attraction for kids is really needed in this world, and the first Molly Kite & Co. book (written with that very intention in mind) is now available to you.

You can visit here today to pre-order your copy of the online interactive book, the paperback, or both!

Molly Kite Has Faith, written by Tam Veilleaux and illustrated by Russ Cox, is a fun and interactive story that will help bring your kids right into understanding of how to recognize unspoken energies at a young age – something that will assist them in getting into the flow of life always.

As the story goes, when Molly Kite dreams of being a potter but doesn’t know the first thing about forming clay, she decides there is only one thing she can do. Learn how seven year old Molly Kite and her constant companion, Faith, use Law of Attraction to achieve Molly’s dream in short time.

Universal Law affects each of us every day, whether we believe it or not. In this very knowing, Molly Kite is a leader for today’s youth. She is someone your children can emulate. Respectful and happy, the freckled face main character is someone you’d be proud to call your own.

Join free-spirited seven year old Molly Kite, brother Banjo, pet raven Johnny Poe, Nana Whacky and other characters as she expands her consciousness through her daily routines. Molly Kite and a cast of fun, insightful characters (including her ever-present doll, Faith) will introduce Universal themes like:

• What goes around comes around
• What you think about expands
• What you resists persists
• The power & importance of being in nature
• And many more!

Watch as your child learns the personal power of directing their thoughts and having faith.

Available October 11 as an interactive book and as a paperback, the Molly Kite & Co. team is now taking pre-orders, which means you can be among the first to own a copy of Molly Kite Has Faith.

The holidays are right around the corner; pick one up as a gift for someone special. Not only will your child benefit, but so do you, the caregiver! Choose from as many as ten different FREE BONUSES offered by friends of Molly Kite. Ebooks, audios and special reports on a variety of topics are yours at no cost when you order Molly Kite Has Faith.

Our future is a bright place when left in the hands of enlightened kids! Go now, get your copy!

Sale Prices: Online book $12.99, Paperback book $12.99, or BOTH for $21.99

Is it Even Possible to Find Bliss in Homework?

Just last week a friend came to me with an interesting question: “How can is it possible to tell if your child is following their bliss? What is it that I will observe my child doing as well as BEing while she is following her bliss?”

Thanks to Steve for asking a great question! Realizing that other parents out there may have the same questions, I decided to blog about it.

Observing my daughter or any child living their bliss is actually a relatively simple thing to do. For example, I know when my daughter is in her bliss or in alignment by:

• The tone of her voice
• The way she is carrying herself – her body language and posture
• An easy and relaxed expression on her face is a key indication of her bliss – she appears to be glowing – just radiating happiness.

Other indicators are when she sings and dances – her creative sense of self is predominant. Lots of artwork, song writing, and improvisational skits are bestowed upon me. When she is doing homework and is in her bliss or alignment, the homework is done lickety split and with accuracy! She trusts and knows that she has the answers to any homework questions or assignment.

When she is in her bliss, people are drawn to her. Teachers ask her to do the coveted duties for the classroom and schoolmates want to be around her. The telephone rings off the hook with invitations to various events.

Most parents can easily identify when their children are in a blissful state. The tricky thing for parents to do is to allow their children to continue to live in their bliss.

Many times, a well-meaning parent can pull a child away from being in a state of bliss or state of alignment. Most times this occurs when a parent is wanting their child or children to “do” something that the parent has placed more importance on than the child’s own scale of importance.

Take homework, as an example.

Homework is part of the school system. Even if you are homeschooling your child, certain curriculum standards have to be met. So how do you as a parent make sure the homework gets finished and allow your child to stay connected to their bliss? Read more

Often times a parent will find themselves in the quagmire of why things are the way they appear to be, or why “it” isn’t working. “It” isn’t working because the parent is asking why “it” isn’t working.  What ever “it” is. 

One thing that I have found is that many times parents-people in general are seeking out alternative ways, energetic ways  of re-parenting themselves in such a way so that they can be empowered adults who lead by example free of the old chains that had them bound so tightly.  Freeing oneself from the quagmire of how we think things are is exhilarating.

I was having a discussion with a friend of mine just the other day about how many people are recognizing that they are now finally ready to accept what many call their “birthright.”  I really like the term “birthright.” It feels as natural to me as breathing in and out.  At any rate, here is what I said during the conversation:

” It all begins with empowering people to be the magnificent beings that they truly are. Reminding people how to shine. It is then that the dramatic shift happens, folks realize that they can create the life they thought only other people had. People are more open now, they are even energetically seeking solutions that are spiritually based using the principals of Universal Laws.”

Yes, I do believe that there is a powerful shift going on.  A shift in the way folks like you are thinking.  It reaches beyond our own individual lives.  When a person re-parents him or herself  it is then they can begin to view their world from a different perspective.

~Peace

Cyndi

Something that I would call divine intervention occurred within the past 24 hours in my life and I wanted to share it with you.

Many of you know that I am a single parent.  My daughters father is involved in her life and they are together every other weekend.   Many weekends they go away to one of his vacation homes.  Such was to be the case this weekend. 

My daughter and I are very energetically connected, she being an Indigo child is fully connected to who she is and I just love that.  One of the things that she does is to call me and say good morning or good night or just let me know what she has discovered.  So it was not unusual for her to call last night and let me know that her dad and her were going to head out to his river house.  Nor was it unusual for her dad to decide to head out on the road at 8:00 PM. 

What was unusual was that I felt compelled, strongly compelled to ask that her Angels surround her for this trip.  So I asked and released the request then I went on about my evening.

There was no surprise when my daughter called me early this morning, I was expecting her call which would let me know that all was well and they were about to go and play on the river. 

Boy did the Universe have another thing instore for my daughter to share with me!  The call started out with her ever so cheerful “hi mom, whatcha’ doing?” to which I responded to that which I believed to be where she was “oh I see you guys are at the river.”

Well not exactly-

You see her dad decided to grab a couple of hours of sleep before heading out.  Both he and my daughter had agreed to leave around 1:00 or 2:00 AM.  That would put them at the river by 6:00 AM, they’d have a full two days to play.

Well, he slept until 5:00 AM giving them a much later start than originally intended.  Nontheless they set out for the river.  About two hours into the drive the left rear wheel came off of the truck.  He was able to maintain control of the vehicle and got it over to the roadside.  Of course the vehicle had to be towed back to his house and the trip was cancelled.

It would have been very easy for any parent to react to my daughters big adventure from a fear based perspective.  Instead of reacting from a fear based perspective I simply listened to my beautiful powerful Indigo child recount the adventure she had just been on. 

I felt complete utter joy and took comfort in the knowing that I had infact trusted my own inner guide when I felt the pull to ask for the Angels to be with her on this trip.  I did not dismiss the pull thinking that there was no need to ask or that I was simply hearing or feeling that pull based on my own fear of the trip that they were going to take.

We all have the ability to tap into our inner guide.  Some call it Source Energy or All That Is.  Whatever you may call it, GOD, Budda, Abraham, it matter not.  It is all the same.  It is the basis of all creation and I for one am so very joyful to be connected to that loving flow of energy.

~Peace

Cyndi