I was just thinking about trusting. Really trusting that all is well…really trusting that I could do what I was feeling called to do and trusting that the Universe would provide joy for my child.

As I write this it struck me that I am doing exactly what I am feeling called to do and my daughter is dancing her little heart out in the next room.  I heard the music being slowly turned up, little by little and when I took a peak into the next room she was really getting into it.  She was totally unaware of my observing her~I had to cover my mouth to keep from giggling aloud.  Her dancing is very dramatic.

We can all learn from our kids~ turn the music up and dance dance dance!

I am writing this post and feeling such an overwhelming sense of peace and joy knowing that my child is connecting with her own joy.

We can all learn from our kids~ turn the music up and dance dance dance!

Yes, we have come far…and what a fun trip it is. 

Peace~

Cyndi

Were you aware that 80% of everything that we learn in life we learn in the first 5 years of our lives? 80% of what we believe is possible, everything we learn to believe about what it is that we deserve we learn in the first 5 years?

Just think about it for a moment…What do you hear yourself saying to your own kids? Are you uplifting and supporting? Or do you catch yourself sounding just like your parents did? Ugh-I know that I have stood in a place and thought, Oh my gosh, I have become my mother!

Here is something that I found really interesting: On average kids are hearing 14 negative comments from well meaning parents and teachers to just ONE positive and uplifting comment. There are 14 of those “get outta there’s, why can’t you understand, don’t touch that, what part of no don’t you understand?” compared to just one “you can do it or I believe in you.”

It is no wonder that so many adults are living lives that frustrate them. Adults who really want to do something different-maybe start a business, maybe rediscover what really makes their heart sing, like painting or writing that book and getting published or even finding the courage to quit that dead end job and follow their dream. But there is a deep seed that was planted so many years ago. All of the negative support that folks heard in their early years has become what binds them to living a life of frustration.

Imagine what you could be doing if you would have been totally supported in the first 5 years of your life and beyond?

What would it be like to be supportative of your own children, no matter their age? The time is now to empower your self and your kids.

Like most parents, mine did the best that they knew how. Afterall, there is no instruction book that will cover any and all situations that parents are faced with. There are no perfect parents. We are after all human. Take each bump in the road as a learning oppertunity. Learn how to step into your full power as a parent, learn how to empower your child to be the best that they can be.

Now, please don’t get me wrong, this is not about blaming anyone for anything. It is about getting real, real about what kind of a parenting experience you want to have. You can choose to carry on with the generation(s) of old school parenting, or you can choose to create a parenting experience that will bring you peace of mind, joy and huge rewards. Break those chains that have you bound. Change your beliefs, change your parenting.

Parenting is supposed to be fun.

Peace~

Cyndi

Many of my friends are asking what they can do to reduce the anxiety they feel when back to school time rolls around. It has become such a topic of conversation that I thought I’d share some tips here.

First what a parent needs to do is determine what their own (the parent’s) beliefs are around their children returning to school.

Here are a couple of questions that a parent can ask themselves:

Does the idea of homework provoke anxiety in me?

With the resumption of school am I finding myself feeling anxious about getting everyone out of the house on time?

Since my son/daughter will be entering high school, am I fearful of the peer pressure my son/daughter will be faced with to participate in drugs or alchol use?

You see, it is the stories that the parent is telling themselves about what their child can expect to experience in the returning to school process that is really the driving force behind the anxiety the children feel.

Children learn from their parents what anxiety is. Kids are not anxious by nature. It is a learned pattern of behavior.

When a parent can begin to control their own anxiety-their own story about what their kids will experience then the whole experience shifts in really big ways.

Once a parent can acknowledge that they are connecting to a really old story; an old belief pattern that they learned from their own parents, they can ask themselves, is this MY story or is it my childs story?

So if a parent can ask the questions and go a bit deeper into the why’s behind their feellings:

Does the idea of homework provoke anxiety in me? Why? What was homework time like in my house as a kid? Did I get the support I needed? Did I feel like nobody wanted to help me do my homework? Was getting straight “A’s” all that mattered in my house? Am I overcompensating and making the homework my homework instead of letting my child do their best?

What can a parent do to ease the anxiety that they are creating for themselves and their children?

They can begin to create their own new beliefs around back to school. They can begin to model more positive behavior for their kids. Doing so becomes like a huge ripple effect. Soon the parent finds that their own anxiety level has decreased which will decrease the anxity level in the household.