How Are You Viewing Your World?

Guest Post By: Ruth Hegarty

As I meander through my days I talk to a lot of people, and I often hear how hard things/life/etc. are, especially around this time of year as the holiday bustle approaches. It seems as if life can sometimes feel like one big chore and that the holidays, which are supposed to be restful and joyful, are just a whirl of hassle and disappointed expectations.

Now, I love taking it easy and I love the holidays, and I have spent many years working with the issue of why some people find it so challenging to take it easy. So, as my gift to you today, I’m not only going to ask the question: “Why is taking it easy so hard?” I’m also going to give you the answer (just to prove how easy I love to make things!).

First, let’s make it clear that the reason so many people find it hard to take it easy isn’t what you think it is. It has nothing to do with not having enough time, having too many responsibilities, other people’s demands, or any of the other excuses that are so popular.

The real reason why you find it hard to take it easy is because (drum roll, please) you THINK it MUST be HARD. Seriously, that is the ONLY reason life feels hard. When you choose to believe that life has to be hard because that’s just the way it is, then you are deliberately (even if maybe unconsciously) creating the experience of difficulty in your life.

In order to take it easy in your life, you simply need to come from a place where you believe it’s possible. Now, I know it isn’t always comfortable to change, which is the main reason we get caught up in staying in situations that don’t feel good. However, I promise you that deliberately creating a life that you love is more than worth the initial discomfort.

There is always – ALWAYS – a way to do something that feels good and doesn’t feel like work.

The key to remember is that even actual work doesn’t have to feel like work. That is what ease and effortlessness are all about. It’s a mindset that orients you toward looking for a better way to get things done.

This mindset come through anything from hiring someone else to do things for you, finding the simplest and most comfortable strategy for getting things done, or deciding that it doesn’t even need to happen (this one is great for anything you think you “should” do.) You can delegate tasks to staff, family, etc. You can also delegate tasks to technology. This is one of the ways I get so much done myself – I take a little time to automate my systems, and then they pretty much run themselves.

Ease can mean different things to different people. It doesn’t mean lazy, though it can include lying around. Ease can include lots of activity so long as it feels great to you and feels effortless. All of the behaviors of ease follow naturally after you create the mindset. Read more

What's Your Wish?

For the past nine years, I have been a mother, business woman and executive at a Fortune 100 Company. As a Coach and Energy Worker who is at the forefront of spiritual training, it is my passion and my purpose to discover and introduce programs that will enrich and bless your parenting life.

Today, I want to ask you a few questions and then tell you a personal story…

• Have you ever wished parenting could be easier?
• Have you ever thought, “There has got to be a better way!”?
• Have you ever wished LIFE could be easier?
• Have you ever wondered – as I did – why some people always seemed to have that golden touch – always being in the right place at the right time – something it seemed would never happen to you?

Nine years ago, I felt the same way.  My marriage was ending, my father had just been diagnosed with a rare form of cancer, I had a newborn, and I was making a career move! Against all odds and conventional wisdom, I doubled my income in less than one year.  In less than 2 years, I was elevated to an executive position at a Fortune 100 company.

People were surprised at what I accomplished; they even congratulated me.

But I didn’t have the energy to congratulate myself. I was just exhausted – and I couldn’t imagine how in the world I would manage another year of the same. It was just not possible. All I wished for was an end to what seemed like constant chaos.

In hindsight, I know I did lots of things the hard way. I worked late nights and weekends – and I felt guilty ALL the time. When I was with my family I felt guilty for not working and – yep, you guessed it – when I was working I felt guilty for not being with my family!

On more than one occasion, I was ready to give up. I knew I couldn’t continue much longer at the same frenzied and chaotic pace. Then, it dawned on me! Read more

What standard are your kids measuring themselves up to?

One of my favorite times of the day is when I get to go and pick my daughter up from school. It is during the drive home that she and I get to catch up on the day’s activities. Our conversations at these times are totally open and honest.

One of the most recent conversations started out with the typical, “Mom, can I ask you something?” To which I always reply, “Of course honey, you can ask me anything.”

I have to admit, what came out of my daughter’s mouth was unexpected. “Mom, what are carbohydrates?”

“Okay,” I thought, “What is prompting this question? Maybe the kids had a discussion about carbohydrates in physical education? That must be it,” I thought to myself. “What is making you ask about carbohydrates, honey?”

Was I shocked to hear what came out of my ten-year-old daughter’s mouth as she continued, “Well, Janie* is only allowed 15 carbohydrates a day, and she says carbohydrates make you fat.”

“Wow!” I thought, “Oh my goodness – these are only 10 and 11 year old girls!” None of which (I can assure you) have any weight issues. So how did I handle the question about carbohydrates? Simple. I explained that carbohydrates are energy, just like all food. It takes energy for your body to function, for your brain to think, and for you to be able to do physical activities.

My daughter seemed to be satisfied with my answer and we continued on to different topics of discussion. The very next day, my daughter announced that Janie has taken up label reading and had begun offering nutritional advice to her classmates. Seems like Janie has become a self appointed dietitian, telling the kids what is good or bad for them to consume. My daughter also announced that she (my daughter) thinks her (my daughter’s) legs are chunky.

What? Read more

How do you cope with these kinds of situations?

Do you find yourself striving to have a more patient, gentle approach to your parenting?

When I first began on my journey to applying universal principles to family life, I found this to be one of the major hurdles that I HAD to get over. Yes – there was a lot of stress in my life. Single mother, full time corporate exec, dealing with family health issues – you name it. But I didn’t want all of those things continually coming together to create a short fuse that was ready to blow just when it could affect my daughter the most.

Let’s face it – as a parent, it can often be difficult to keep your cool – but it can be done. There are many ways to relieve stress and improve your overall parenting experience. Here are 8 parenting tips you can act on right now to start finding more bliss within the chaos during your parenting journey.

1. Admit That You Aren’t Perfect. Only a superhuman could juggle every aspect of their adult lives in perfection. It’s just not realistic to feel that you should be the one exception – and incredibly freeing to admit that you don’t have to. When you do find yourself making a “mistake” acknowledge it – not only to yourself, but also to your children.
2. Allow Yourself Some Time Off. Whether it’s an uninterrupted bath or simply allowing time for daily meditation, you are permitted and entitled to some personal time once in a while. In fact, your mental well-being depends on it!
3. Engage the kids in “Family Meetings”. Children as young as 2 or 3 have opinions – and they can and should be taken into consideration. You can engage your children during family meeting time. Make them a part of the decision making process. For example, let the kids decide on a family activity, like choosing the board game or card game on game night. Family meetings foster healthy communication and problem solving between adults and children.
4. Support. Make sure you have a support network. Support networks that offer unbiased suggestions and support are invaluable! Engage a mentor or other parenting expert for unbiased support. You’ll be glad that you did.
5. Stay Rested. Sometimes eight hours of sleep every night isn’t realistic for parents of young children. So you need to be able to catch a cat nap or a few moments of quiet time whenever you can. Even if you sit quietly for just a few moments in your car before you transition from the office to the drive home, you’ll be recharging your batteries. If you can, take a 10 or 15 minute power nap during your lunch time. Sleep whenever you get the chance. Sleep deprivation can tremendously shorten your fuse.
6. Eat Well. Proper nutrition helps keep you focused and it helps your immune system function at optimal levels. Don’t skip meals when you’re running behind or because you get distracted. If your immune system gets run down, you are more susceptible to getting sick. When you get sick, you’ll still be responsible for being a parent. You wouldn’t send your child off to school or to bed without eating, and the same goes for you – you need to eat balanced meals.
7. Exercise. You don’t need to join a gym to reap the benefits of exercise. Putting some music on and dancing with your children is a great way to exercise and engage your children at the same time. Many parents think they don’t have time to join a local gym, and many times parents are in situations where a sitter is not available. The truth is, most gyms offer child care so you can take your child along with you. Get some regular exercise to keep your energy level up. Regular exercise helps alleviate stress in a big way.
8. Learn To Laugh. Laugh at yourself! If you can think of the absurdity of things like they are a grand comedy and laugh at the craziness of it all, you’ll be in a much better mood. Life is supposed to be fun! So what if your toddler is having the melt down of all melt downs! Remember that young children are learning how to express themselves and leave it at that.

Once when I was shopping during the holidays I noticed a young mother and her young son moving pretty quickly through the store. It was obvious that her son had been asking her repeatedly for a toy. The boy was standing in the area of the cart where you place your items. He was a really cute kid. After hearing his mom say over and over again to him that he was going to have to wait for the toy he’d been bugging her to buy him, he raised his arms to the sky and in a very melodramatic voice said, “For the love of humanity, won’t someone help me out here?!”

Well, that just cracked me up! I looked at his mom and at first glance she seemed completely unfazed by his performance. She had a small, almost unnoticeable little grin on her face. Smiling silently to herself, she was laughing on the inside I am sure.

When life comes at you too fast, step away and take a break. Do yourself and your kids a huge favor get to the place of knowing that everything really is going to be okay – that this too shall pass. After all, what’s the worst that can come of spilled milk? It is not the end of the world. It is just a minor hiccup in the day of a parent.

Seeing you as having the parenting experience you dream of.

~Peace

Cyndi Cerny
Founder Blissful Transformation of the Chaotic Family
www.BlissfullyTransformChaoticFamily.com
Cyndi@BlissfullyTransformChaoticFamily.com

Molly Kite Has Faith

As a spiritual parenting coach, it’s always exciting to me to join with others who are so on board with the idea that kids can be brought up in full understanding of universal principles like the Laws of Attraction, freeing them in so many ways to grow up in the knowing of the birthright that each and every one of us were born with.

That’s why I am thrilled to share this with you today – my colleague, Tam Veilleaux, has written a children’s book I know you’ll love! She’s experienced the same vision that Law of Attraction for kids is really needed in this world, and the first Molly Kite & Co. book (written with that very intention in mind) is now available to you.

You can visit here today to pre-order your copy of the online interactive book, the paperback, or both!

Molly Kite Has Faith, written by Tam Veilleaux and illustrated by Russ Cox, is a fun and interactive story that will help bring your kids right into understanding of how to recognize unspoken energies at a young age – something that will assist them in getting into the flow of life always.

As the story goes, when Molly Kite dreams of being a potter but doesn’t know the first thing about forming clay, she decides there is only one thing she can do. Learn how seven year old Molly Kite and her constant companion, Faith, use Law of Attraction to achieve Molly’s dream in short time.

Universal Law affects each of us every day, whether we believe it or not. In this very knowing, Molly Kite is a leader for today’s youth. She is someone your children can emulate. Respectful and happy, the freckled face main character is someone you’d be proud to call your own.

Join free-spirited seven year old Molly Kite, brother Banjo, pet raven Johnny Poe, Nana Whacky and other characters as she expands her consciousness through her daily routines. Molly Kite and a cast of fun, insightful characters (including her ever-present doll, Faith) will introduce Universal themes like:

• What goes around comes around
• What you think about expands
• What you resists persists
• The power & importance of being in nature
• And many more!

Watch as your child learns the personal power of directing their thoughts and having faith.

Available October 11 as an interactive book and as a paperback, the Molly Kite & Co. team is now taking pre-orders, which means you can be among the first to own a copy of Molly Kite Has Faith.

The holidays are right around the corner; pick one up as a gift for someone special. Not only will your child benefit, but so do you, the caregiver! Choose from as many as ten different FREE BONUSES offered by friends of Molly Kite. Ebooks, audios and special reports on a variety of topics are yours at no cost when you order Molly Kite Has Faith.

Our future is a bright place when left in the hands of enlightened kids! Go now, get your copy!

Sale Prices: Online book $12.99, Paperback book $12.99, or BOTH for $21.99

Is it Even Possible to Find Bliss in Homework?

Just last week a friend came to me with an interesting question: “How can is it possible to tell if your child is following their bliss? What is it that I will observe my child doing as well as BEing while she is following her bliss?”

Thanks to Steve for asking a great question! Realizing that other parents out there may have the same questions, I decided to blog about it.

Observing my daughter or any child living their bliss is actually a relatively simple thing to do. For example, I know when my daughter is in her bliss or in alignment by:

• The tone of her voice
• The way she is carrying herself – her body language and posture
• An easy and relaxed expression on her face is a key indication of her bliss – she appears to be glowing – just radiating happiness.

Other indicators are when she sings and dances – her creative sense of self is predominant. Lots of artwork, song writing, and improvisational skits are bestowed upon me. When she is doing homework and is in her bliss or alignment, the homework is done lickety split and with accuracy! She trusts and knows that she has the answers to any homework questions or assignment.

When she is in her bliss, people are drawn to her. Teachers ask her to do the coveted duties for the classroom and schoolmates want to be around her. The telephone rings off the hook with invitations to various events.

Most parents can easily identify when their children are in a blissful state. The tricky thing for parents to do is to allow their children to continue to live in their bliss.

Many times, a well-meaning parent can pull a child away from being in a state of bliss or state of alignment. Most times this occurs when a parent is wanting their child or children to “do” something that the parent has placed more importance on than the child’s own scale of importance.

Take homework, as an example.

Homework is part of the school system. Even if you are homeschooling your child, certain curriculum standards have to be met. So how do you as a parent make sure the homework gets finished and allow your child to stay connected to their bliss? Read more

Is Your Child Living an Empowered Existence?

It’s October now, and the school year is in full swing. You’re settling back into the homework and the before and after school routines. After a long break and the excitement of school beginning, it can nice to have everything settle down a bit – but with kids it also serves as a reminder of how quickly time does fly.

One of the things I’ve really noticed this year is the vast difference in how children behave from one grade level to the next. It wasn’t so long ago that my daughter was starting kindergarten, and now she is fast approaching the high school years!

This really came to light as she and I were on the way home from school the other day. When I picked her up I noticed that she seemed just a little bit ‘off’ – not her usual vivacious, outgoing, tell me all about her day self.

She was quiet – really quiet – and after about ten minutes of driving, she turned to me and said, “You know what Mom? I just don’t understand how someone can be your friend one minute and then be really mean the very next minute – like leaving you in the dust and ignoring you.” Read more